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My OKCupid adventures are not only entertaining, but also very educational. I have come across a great deal of well written profiles. Some of them are quite beautifully written. In fact, I am discovering other peoples’ profiles summaries certain things that I wish to summarize in such all encompassing way that I am asking some of them to allow me to borrow their writings to use on my blog.

Case in point. One of the things in this whole dating madness that is important to me is to address family topic. In particular, I appreciate people who are close with their families, and yet maintain healthy boundaries.

It is a sticky topic. In the past I have been asked if I have bad relationship with my family, and that is why I bring the topic up? The answer is “No, I have a great relationship with my family. But it took a while to get there, and I am hoping that whomever I am dating is there too, because I don’t want to be around messy family situations.”

Ok, so before my post is making you to want to bite my head off for being so unsympathetic and insensitive towards family issues, let me just say this. I am 34 years old. I date men who are in their late 20th to late 30th.  Going on with someone who is still having deep and unresolved daddy or mommy issues at that age isn’t appealing to me.  I sympathize with people who are in such predicament, and I am glad to help if needed. It is just, I won’t date them.

So, if I say it how it is for me, meaning how I think of it in my head,  it doesn’t come across too nicely.  And then I come across a prefect summary of exactly what I am trying to say without raffling anyone’s feathers.  And here is goes. a direct quote (have the permission of the user) that captures my thoughts on the issue exactly.

“…you have a good relationship with your family but not one that’s so overwhelming that I think you’re a Kennedy (unless you’re a Kennedy or otherwise recognized clan)…”

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